This one’s for my valuable clients and loyal readers! I just want to share a few ideas that hit me during this time of year.

Like many (if not all) of you are now, I was single for many (MANY) years – but finally married the love of my life at age 39 – and this time of year brings back my many (MANY) moments of dread.

Another year single?! Oy vey! (Which translates to dismay or exasperation.) If I could do it all over, I wish I had told myself these things on one of those many, many (MANY) New Years Eves I was still single:

Bat In Your League

I was looking for a big S-T-U-D.  Why?  Who wants a showboat, when all you really want and need is someone to love?  I was an average woman who was well past my prime in my late 30’s.  I should have looked in the mirror.  I didn’t settle, but I did compromise.  I married a man who lived 30 miles away and he was a single-parent.  Not the perfect man, but perfect for me!

The Steep Cost of Doing Nothing

So the first 4 weekends of the year you decide to sit at home and relax.  It is cold out (excuse),  I’m tired (excuse),  Internet dating apps suck (excuse).  I used all those excuses.  It just prolonged the time I was un-happily single (there were some VERY fun years too!) and I missed out on fantastic years being happily married!

Are You Learning From Your Dating Experiences

It took many years foe me to learn that dating wasn’t about getting a guy to like you, it was about PICKING the right guy.  I used dating for entertainment and fun.  All singles have a hang-ups.  Some are insecure, some are overly secure.  It is a good time to really evaluate what you’re doing wrong and commit to changing it!

So there you have it.  Take it from me – the new year is a great time to evaluate you and your standards.  And above all else – don’t stop dating!  The only ones who don’t find it are the ones that stop looking.

Best of luck in 2019!