This one’s for my valuable clients and loyal readers! I just want to share a few ideas that hit me during this time of year.
Like many (if not all) of you are now, I was single for many (MANY) years – but finally married the love of my life at age 39 – and this time of year brings back my many (MANY) moments of dread.
Another year single?! Oy vey! (Which translates to dismay or exasperation.) If I could do it all over, I wish I had told myself these things on one of those many, many (MANY) New Years Eves I was still single:
Bat In Your League
I was looking for a big S-T-U-D. Why? Who wants a showboat, when all you really want and need is someone to love? I was an average woman who was well past my prime in my late 30’s. I should have looked in the mirror. I didn’t settle, but I did compromise. I married a man who lived 30 miles away and he was a single parent. Not the perfect man, but perfect for me!
The Steep Cost of Doing Nothing
So the first 4 weekends of the year you decide to sit at home and relax. It is cold out (excuse), I’m tired (excuse), Internet dating apps suck (excuse). I used all those excuses. It just prolonged the time I was un-happily single (there were some VERY fun years too!) and I missed out on fantastic years being happily married!
Are You Learning From Your Dating Experiences
It took many years foe me to learn that dating wasn’t about getting a guy to like you, it was about PICKING the right guy. I used dating for entertainment and fun. All singles have a hang-ups. Some are insecure, some are overly secure. It is a good time to really evaluate what you’re doing wrong and commit to changing it!
So there you have it. Take it from me – the new year is a great time to evaluate you and your standards. And above all else – don’t stop dating! The only ones who don’t find it are the ones that stop looking.
Best of luck in 2019!