Single During The Holidays
December 28, 2014

Statistics show that more people sign up for online dating services from Thanksgiving – Valentine’s Day than any other time of the year. The holiday season can bombard you with a number of different emotions, from excitement and gratefulness to stress and loneliness.

It feels like couples are more in-your-face nowadays than any other time because of social media. Everyone wants to broadcast why they have the best boyfriend, girlfriend, husband or wife with numerous pictures of their new gifts and holiday events. Facebook has become the new “Announcements” section for engagements and weddings. As a single man or woman, it’s human for you to have feelings of loneliness or sadness when this is all happening around you and you aren’t included. It also doesn’t help that your grandmother continues to remind you that time is precious and you should find a wife or husband as soon as possible. Here are just a couple tips to not only to survive the holidays, but to enjoy them while you’re unattached.

Embrace Your Independence: First things first, keep your chin up, darling. Just because you’re single doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy the holidays just like everyone else. In all honesty, the fact that you can go and do as you please allows you more opportunities for fun than someone who is tied down anyways. Remember, you’re single, not dead.

The ‘Plus One’ Dilemma: The holiday season is full of parties, cocktails, and events. Most of us will agree that showing up alone to a social or family gathering isn’t exactly ideal. Instead of stressing out about bringing a ‘plus one’, show up solo or invite another single friend. Flying solo allows you to work the party without strings attached hopefully resulting in a couple new prospects or even new friends. Most cities have great festive mixers for singles. These events are full of people who are in the same boat, which is why you should definitely check them out.

Avoid Falling Into Old Habits: The holidays are the most popular time for people to rekindle old flames. For some reason, when we start feeling lonely, it gets really easy to fall back into old relationships. Although it may seem comforting and fun to go back to someone familiar, this often doesn’t turn out well for either party involved. Remember that things ended for a reason. Instead, try grabbing drinks with someone new.

Stop Obsessing Over Social Media: Whether you’re stalking your ex or just obsessing over why you can’t have a relationship like so-and-so, it isn’t healthy. There have been countless studies on the effects social media has on your self-esteem.  Obsessing over the way someone else’s life looks from the outside, isn’t going to make you feel any better on the inside. If necessary, limit your social media usage until after the holidays.

The holiday season doesn’t have to be one you dread. By keeping these things in mind, you’ll conquer those fears of having a terrible experience and hopefully meet a few great people along the way. If you’re ready to make this your last single holiday season, contact the matchmakers at 1 on 1 Matchmaking.