Dating is tough. It’s a constant merry-go-round of being asked basic questions about your life, trying to look your best, giving up normal evening activities to have to be the greatest version of yourself- and so on. Most people hate dating for various reasons and get burnout on it, but don’t you want to be in a relationship? Don’t give up!
There are a lot of reasons to hate online dating. You get frustrated when you finally match with someone, but then no one says anything and the match gets erased. Avoid this by saying something. Then that shows you’re interested, but also then puts the ball in the other person’s court. Be creative and do not just say ‘Hey.” Say something about one of their photos or say something about their bio. But most importantly, ask a good question that they will want to respond to. This will make you stand out and will prompt them to follow through with a conversation. If they don’t respond, don’t be offended. They’re just not that into you. Get over it. This also leads into another scenario in which makes people hate dating. Which is, a conversation that lasts for a week and doesn’t lead to a date.
Guys, you should be the one to ask the girl out. Pick up on clues on if she is into you before you ask her out. Notice how long she is taking to respond to you. Is it pretty prompt? Are you having good conversation that is more than the basics? If these answers are yes, then ask her out. You should talk to a person for a solid three or four days before asking to meet up. Don’t just randomly ask everyone you match with for drinks- you’ll get burnt out. Pick the right ones to meet.
Do you match with people who look great in photos online, but then meet them in person and they gained 40 pounds? Honestly, people who do this should just…. not. If you’re not proud of your body now, then work on it. Get in the gym. Men and women are not attracted to people who are extremely overweight. They want someone just as active as themselves. They are thinking, “Hmm I enjoy hiking and I don’t even think this man/woman could climb up a moderate hill for 20 minutes.” They also want you to be healthy. They don’t want you to die on them early if you get into a relationship and get married later on in life. Being healthy is important and you should want to take care of yourself. It says a lot about your personality if you aren’t taking care of yourself. So have a friend take an updated photo of you next time you’re out being social, and delete the one from 2010.
Meeting people in a more traditional way also has some flaws. You’re probably sick of having to randomly go out to a bar or restaurant and either hit on a bunch of girls to get a phone number or just sit there and wait for a guy to come up to you. It’s exhausting and can take a lot out of you, especially if nothing happens and you go home with no digits. To fix this, think about the person you are trying to attract and go to where you think they’re hanging out at. Is it a manly sports guy? He’s probably at a sports pub watching the game. Is it a classy young/trendy female? She’s probably at a wine bar with a friend. Is it an old rich gentleman? He’s probably at the bar of a ritzy steakhouse. Don’t just go where you want to hangout- think about places that attract the people you want to meet.