Have you heard of the 5 Love Languages? Do you know what yours is?
“The 5 Love Languages,” is a book by Gary Chapman, that describes how we give and receive love best. To our family and friends, and of course, our significant others or spouses. In some cases, our love language can be similar for our romantic relationships and friendships.
Here are the 5 ways to give and receive love.
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Words of affirmation – using words to build up the other person. Saying “I love you. I care about you. I hear you….” - Gifts – the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift
- Acts of Service – Doing something for your significant other that you know they would be appreciative of. Cooking a meal, washing dishes, vacuuming floors, are all acts of service.
- Quality time – by which I mean, giving your spouse your undivided attention. Taking a walk together or sitting on the couch with the TV off – talking and listening.
- Physical touch – physical presence and accessibility are crucial. Holding hands, hugging, and kissing are all expressions of love.
Words of affirmation – using words to build up the other person. Saying “I love you. I care about you. I hear you….”Out of these five, each of you has a primary love language which speaks more deeply to you than the others. You can identify with a couple more so than the others. Discovering your spouse’s love language and speaking it regularly is the best way to keep love alive in a relationship.
Do you know your love language? You should! Take the quiz here to find out what your preferred methods of love are:
What did you discover your primary love language is? _________________
What is your secondary love language, if you have one? ________________
Did this surprise you? If so, what had you expected your language to be?