First dates. They can be amazing, and they can be awful. Sometimes in between. We will be diving into what are a few examples of first date dealbreakers and how to avoid them.
How can you avoid being the awful or even in-between date?
How your date treats the wait staff is always very telling of their character. If they are interested in their lives, or just kind to them when they come around to your table, that is always a good sign. “A man (or woman) who is actively unpleasant to the waiter is best avoided. Ditto those who patronize them. Just as bad, though, are people who treat waiters as though they’re invisible.”
Don’t be negative. I’m not saying you have to pretend like your life is perfect, but no one wants to date a Debbie Downer. Don’t kick off the date talking about how bad traffic was, how it’s too cold outside, or about how you had a frustrating encounter with your coworker today. Stay focused on the good things, be interested, and maybe talk about things you are excited about.
Watch the drinks. It is always a good idea to have a drink or two on a date, to feel more comfortable and to loosen up. It lightens the conversation and the mood. Once, you are on drink 3 or 4 or 5 (depending on your limit and the length of the date) you are blurring lines, and not putting your best foot forward. You want to be aware and conscious of what you are saying and how you are acting at all times. Don’t jinx a chance of a second date, because you had too much to drink.
Lastly, don’t get too comfortable too quickly…this is mostly for the dudes. You never want to push the boundaries physically, and make your date uncomfortable. Getting too touchy on the first date can make some girls go running. Hold your horses, bud. Read the signs. Above all, be respectful and make your date feel safe. That is a very attractive quality.